90 Day Fiancé Star Akinyi Obala Shares Struggles of Settling in the US
90 Day Fiancé star Akinyi Obala has shared her struggles of settling in the United States.
The 26-year-old Kenyan native moved to Glendale, Arizona last year to start a marriage life with her American husband Benjamin Taylor and is still making adjustments with her new life there.
Akinyi, who met Benjamin on a dating app after his failed marriage to his previous wife, admits things have never been easy for her ever since she arrived in the US.
The reality star revealed that there are many things she found odd the moment she set foot in the US, and also experienced culture shock.
One of the things that surprised her is that plastic bags, which are banned in Kenya, are still used in the US.
Akinyi also talked about her struggles in using some kitchen appliances, which she is not very familiar with. For instance, she had to call her husband to show her how to use an oven while the first time she used a toaster, she set the fire alarm off after burning the food.
Benjamin and Akinyi appeared on Season 3 of 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days. The couple met on a dating app after Benjamin’s marriage to his son Grayson's mother Hanekawa Dravon failed.
At first, Benjamin was worried that Akinyi was a catfish but she eventually proved to be the real deal. He later planned a trip to Kenya to meet Akinyi, who introduced him to her family.
Benjamin won the approval of her parents and managed to negotiate a bride price, automatically becoming Akinyi’s husband. Reports indicate the two tied the knot in the US in April this year.
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Hiyo mambo yote ni sawa…
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Hiyo mambo yote ni sawa kabisa.You are on the right track Akinyi.Shikilia.
These marriages don't last…
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These marriages don't last for long is just experiment. All know Obama husien left boy one year old mother run with boy to Indonesia to find husien , but KENYATTA had already hijacked dude to help figuring where his properties should be under total protection
STRONGER THAN CIA AND NASA . They ALWAYS fail and are not meant to succeed as chickens and ducks can never be together forever..Duck will dig itself in water and chickens hate too much unless only to drink.
You are as rotten as you…
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In reply to These marriages don't last… by Rotten (not verified)
You are as rotten as you call yourself- No one marries to divorce unless is for convenience where some guys in US/europe do but that is arranged cash and marry - for greencard oam referring to those who desire a family .so stop your stereotyping . how is yours?
I I thought @morris menye…
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In reply to These marriages don't last… by Rotten (not verified)
I I thought @morris menye was really bad! We now have a rotten nigger here; hopefully a brother to @morris menye!
You certainly can’t help a dying dog no matter how man y bones you throw to the shitty dog!!
wacha wivu! RISWA. Akinyi…
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In reply to These marriages don't last… by Rotten (not verified)
wacha wivu! RISWA. Akinyi hold on tight!
Awww
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Awww
Well,I am still leery about…
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Well,I am still leery about meeting aromantic interest on social media,or to be more direct on a dating app. Of course I see the logic,and that is these people have stated what they want so their is no beating about the bush. But from what I have read, the so called " best foot forward " most of the time turns out to be lies,and "putting lipstick on a pig"...
Sure there are success stories you hear,but there are more failed stories that we dont hear. Anyway,I just think going miles away for just a partner is alittle over reaching. Which in away confirms my theory that, marriage is a transactions of trade offs.In my opinion these trade offs far outweigh what the participants in the union call love. For example if apartner will rescue you from poverty,in exchange for some bedroom action,and companionship, to many that would outweigh love,which there is no scale to measure.
As noted, my comments do not in anyway focus on this couple,and I wish them well,and if all goes well for them the better.Iam just airing my opinion,and wonderment as to why one would pursue astranger miles away,for alife partner,or some semblance of that.That's all.My two cents.
Comrade Maxiley, We have to…
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In reply to Well,I am still leery about… by Maxiley (not verified)
Comrade Maxiley,
We have to understand that the west is portrayed as if money is picked on the streets until when you land and reality kicks in.
@ Kora kanini, you are very…
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In reply to Comrade Maxiley, We have to… by Kora kanini (not verified)
@ Kora kanini, you are very right.A big misconception indeed, especially when the diaspora go back to Kenya,and flash dollars there like they are cents.We live in two different economies,and it sends avery distorted message when diaspora goes in Kenya,and enjoy the exchange rate of one dollar to 100shilings.They fail to stress that the earning power,and potential in, for example USA,and Kenya are totally different.
Yes it is only when they land here and adjust to the way of life,and american "system'. that they realize that all is not rosy in the land of plenty.
I should also mention that the number one reason for divorce in the USA is caused by "fights" over money,followed by sex...Whether its caused by mismatched partners is a story for another day.
Meeting online, in a bar, by…
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In reply to Well,I am still leery about… by Maxiley (not verified)
Meeting online, in a bar, by the River, train...has no bearing
On the life of a marriage. And love? What love? Indians marry people they have never met and make it work. Much of this is partnership and companionship. I’d love comes along, great. Akinyi will be fine. I know because she has not tried to impress the white boy...like the average Koi would...sky high heels, high to thigh minis,
Overdone make up
Yes where you meet has a…
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In reply to Meeting online, in a bar, by… by Seneca (not verified)
Yes where you meet has a bearing@ Seneca. People who meet in the matter these two in the article met are exception to the rule.Obviously there is areason why majority of people marry those close or near them. And that traditional marriage between"strangers" is quickly becoming athing of the past.I watched one documentary where many had disastrous results,due to this way of "forced marriages'.
Hey to each own. I am against polygamy. Its not for me.But if its for you,more powers to you. This is a forums of exchanging ideas,and opinions,and there is no one fits all ...
I like dating people I see in my circles.I start by seeing followed by touching...
Ndugu yangu, there are no…
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In reply to Yes where you meet has a… by Maxiley (not verified)
Ndugu yangu, there are no guarantees no matter the way you meet be it cute, ugly, arranged or online. I think that romantic love is really overrated. If it wasn't, western countries would have very low divorce rates. I find the idea of a soul mate incredible. People change as they move through life, interests diverge and both men and women start wondering what else is out there. I think the reason modern arranged marriages may not work is because they are conducted like business arrangements. Unfortunately, I have witnessed romantic engagements quickly devolve into business negotiations (Some rūracio ceremonies I have attended were financial deals in every sense). This may be endemic to the house of Mūmbi but I doubt it. I don't have the answers but I wish Akinyi all the best. She will need it as she adjusts to racism, a different culture, expectations, and family more than 9000 miles away.
@seneca - how come you ain’t…
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In reply to Meeting online, in a bar, by… by Seneca (not verified)
@seneca - how come you ain’t able to find yourself partnership and companionship on line like other luo women?? You must be pretty damn ugly!!
How do you know she has not…
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In reply to Meeting online, in a bar, by… by Seneca (not verified)
How do you know she has not tried to impress the white boy? Do you live under their bed? You got a big mouth and You talk too much @seneca!
What is wrong with a couple…
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In reply to Meeting online, in a bar, by… by Seneca (not verified)
What is wrong with a couple meeting in all those places you seem to disregard?? 3/4 of couples who are married today may have meet in all those odd places! Life has changed tremendously and so are the people!
What makes it any different…
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In reply to Well,I am still leery about… by Maxiley (not verified)
What makes it any different marrying someone living 20 miles or 10,000 miles away? If I live in Limuru and meets and marry someone from Athi River how is that different from marrying someone domiciled in another country? I just ‘smell’ pseudo racism, tribalism, or is it ethnic conservatism? Free up your thoughts from these old school societal expectations, marry whoever from wherever as long as thats what you want and no one forced you. Its called personal freedom to choose. Whether the marriage lasts a day or 100 years, its part of the ‘journey’…on this one Maxiley, sharpen your thoughts!
@DrC, yes you said it…
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In reply to What makes it any different… by DrC (not verified)
@DrC, yes you said it Freedom of choice.I choose not to go that route.It's not for me.This has nothing to do with race.We have all shapes,and colors many miles from each other.Why would you suspect race just because i mentioned distance?
Re read my comment again. I said if it works for them, well and good.I can not influence how they live,but themselves.
Makaratasi in the making.Am…
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Makaratasi in the making.Am very sure Akinyi was approached by many divorcee men but akakataa but akachagua divorcee white guy?May this time marriage works thou an average American marries 3x in their life?
acheni wivu! r u god to…
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acheni wivu! r u god to judge? c'mmon no one knows what will work and what will not work! i wish it was that easy. relationships are a game of trial & error and don't let anyone fool u that they are the expert. do u akinyi and all the best!
Instead of bashing them, let…
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Instead of bashing them, let's all wish them the best.
Ok we wish them all the best🤣
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Ok we wish them all the best🤣
kali dada shikilia hiyo kitu…
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kali dada shikilia hiyo kitu kama maziwa ya nyayo
How do you burn food in a…
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How do you burn food in a toaster?? She used toaster to cook food???
It is possible that if had…
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In reply to How do you burn food in a… by Maitha (not verified)
It is possible that if had never seen them or used them before. It may have been a toaster oven, air fryer or convection oven and while we may take them for granted, not every Kenyan in Kenya has one. Despite what a certain individual insists, the living standards in the US are different. She will learn and adapt to life here.
I take it as a toaster oven…
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In reply to How do you burn food in a… by Maitha (not verified)
I take it as a toaster oven. A wrong setting can set off your smoke alarm.
Ok Akinyi! You will not make…
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Ok Akinyi! You will not make it any where else in this world if you can’t make it a America! Being home sick is normal. You will get used to it! Get a job some places do you can interact with others! Avoid listening to those negative elements that may ruin your marriage. Lots of them exist all over America!
Focus on the marriage and…
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Focus on the marriage and don't listen to negative folks. You will meet them if you haven't yet. All the best
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