US-Based Kenyan Woman Whose Daughter Confessed to Infecting Men with HIV Speaks

Hey mum, don’t feel guilty! Your daughter choose her life’s path. She quit school deviantly and opted for a dangerous lifestyle. She’s an adult of a sound mind, let her dig herself out. I applaud you for loving her unconditionally, but, do not allow her to manipulate nor exploit your resources. Let her eat her cake unless she’s willing to turn around and get rehabbed. You are a good mum & that’s what matters.

Well,there are always two sides to a story.

You are a good mom.

Wow, I feel sad for this situation between Njoki and her mother. Njoki should learn to depend on her self because she is of age and she should not expect her mother to keep on supporting her financially and medically!

Unfortunately what we are reading here is a case where some one back in Kenya seems to think that the mother is making a lot money because she is in America. @njoki, you just don’t know how difficult it is to settle down in a foreign country! And, you should be able to fed for yourself now that you are 36 years old!

It is equally painful for Njoki’s mother to bear the brunt of a child who is verbally insulting her! Njoki sounds like a very difficult child that is not well mannered in many ways.

I urge Ms. Ngendo to move on with life and try to have some peace of mind as she works hard in America to make a meaningful life for herself!

At times a mother has to cut off ties with the adult children to concentrate on rebuilding her own life! Njoki is 36 years old and the mothers should not be obligated to provide any financial and medical support to an adult kid!

Only in Kenya that you will find adult children expecting an elderly mother toiling to cater for their meals and General upkeep!

Ms. Ngendo, cut Njoki out of your life if what you have said here about her is true! You will not live in peace as long as you keep entertaining her childish tantrums! Just move on and let be.... sorry to say!!!

I listened to what Njoki had to say in her interview with Tuko with Lynn Ngugi.

While it all touched me, I also tried to put myself in her mother’s shoes as she made efforts to start a new life in America while finding ways to take care of the children she left back home with family members!

Now that Ngendo has spoken, it is apparently clear that Njoki is just a troublesome 36 years old who never understood what her mother going through! Where is the father in all this mix?

There is a lot hard feelings involved here from both sides! The family can come up to a level playing field but it will take a lot of work on both sides. All I can do is wish them the best as they try to sort their issues out!

But, my simple and humble message to Njoki is this - living in a America is not easy! Your mother may have suffered a lot when she got to America but just kept everything she was going through to herself as she tried to find a solution for herself and for you guys back in Kenya!

Please understand that your mother loves you as she has stated here! She looks like an honest lady as you can see the strains of struggles of life in her beautiful face! I have a feeling that she loves and cares for you regardless of the pain both of you have endured over a long period of time.

And for Njoki - I think you love your mana too and that is why you are crying out! And, with proper counseling you can begin to live a fairly decent life there in Kenya. Please stop insulting your mother. You can use a much nicer tone of voice when asking for money.

And remember to understand why your mother may not be sending you money because she also has bills to pay and I assume she does not have a small shamba where she can go harvest some money in America! It is true that the money trees do not grow in America!

Your mother has to toil for every dollar she makes working in America - It is quite difficult out here! I’m just telling you the truth because I also have relatives in Kenya who thinks I own a bank since I moved to America and they can get all sorts of money to blow up!

God bless you both!

All of us commenting are cheerleaders. Help your daughter medically and financially. Period!

I have listened to the mother and listened to the daughter. The daughter is craving for love like a little girl even though at 36 y.o. She needs help. A serious shrink!
The mother is simply a poor poor mother with no mothering skills in serious search for 💰. Money is more important than daughter. Further she taught the daughter bad behavior by entertaining males in her house in the presence of the daughter. When will women learn not to entertain men in their houses in the daughters presence unless it is their father?

wacheni niwambia, families back home are crazy crazy crazy..me when i was in kenya non gave me respect.... they all kicked me out of there homes......sasa it was like, me i have never been big headed untill about 6yrs ago aki........my sis even plotted with my brother to bit me up with my cousin and they got me to her house by telling me she got me a job , i need to hurry so i can drop resume.....haki i had no fare i went walking, running town then got to her hse.....my cuz bro and sis na maid wa sis, driver na watoto walikua home. before i knew it i was slapped right left centre. how i escaped is by jumping through the balcony. this pple are bitter bitches.

when i run to town i never had anywhere to go since i lived with her,.....i went to my bro who has an amazing wife. he had packed my clothes in a bag ...i carried it btw my sis inlaw was tearing handing the bag to me.

i went to my older sis....... she had asked the maid not to open for me.

homeless i called my friend who asked me to grab a taxi to ngumo. forever indebted.

but coz her rm was small i moved inn with my cuzo in nairobi west,

an amazing woman and her fiance. they housed me, fed me and they left me lunch and fare daily.....
i hustled untill i got a Job with NGO.

with my big heart, i used to shop for groceries for my siblings ........ i dont know why but i got the best heart ya forgiveness

well to date non apologised.....i do get triggers

but then they thought they were well off.... doors opened i came majuu kuhustle.

my dear i hustle day and night, i have plots, a hse, and apartment in nairobi, na huko kanyumba in my name.

this pple got jealous .......my own bro has not talked to me for over 5yrs....when i call him he is always in a harry

my siblings are in cahort, i tell my mom but seems they are best of friends.

now me i understand family drama coz i have been in one

but i have remained respectful.....when i feel anger i make sure not to call.

like why they ask me for money .....i dont know....tables do turn. just love love the one you think has nothing . doors do open and jealousy wount shut them doors,
shout amen , amen, another amen.

ms kiki...how blessings come, is not by busing no one... i know hako ka anger.

but try do things that make you happy... block everyone and live your life...blessings comes sometimes by being quiet sweetie.

dont come after me, cant handle ma stress ya familia aki.

instead listen to gaither gospell the song that says , if you love GOD.......

The love and financial support from the diaspora, has helped in crafting 'helplessness' society in Africa..esp Kenya. Now as diaspora community ages, the remittances dwindles and hence those on receiving end will rant and issue threats. The future has to take its course since this was man-made problem. Diasporans are solely responsible for such occurrences. May God bless the families.

wacheni niwambia, families back home are crazy crazy crazy..me when i was in kenya non gave me respect.... they all kicked me out of there homes......sasa it was like, me i have never been big headed untill about 6yrs ago aki........my sis even plotted with my brother to bit me up with my cousin and they got me to her house by telling me she got me a job , i need to hurry so i can drop resume.....haki i had no fare i went walking, running town then got to her hse.....my cuz bro and sis na maid wa sis, driver na watoto walikua home. before i knew it i was slapped right left centre. how i escaped is by jumping through the balcony. this pple are bitter bitches.

when i run to town i never had anywhere to go since i lived with her,.....i went to my bro who has an amazing wife. he had packed my clothes in a bag ...i carried it btw my sis inlaw was tearing handing the bag to me.

i went to my older sis....... she had asked the maid not to open for me.

homeless i called my friend who asked me to grab a taxi to ngumo. forever indebted.

but coz her rm was small i moved inn with my cuzo in nairobi west,

an amazing woman and her fiance. they housed me, fed me and they left me lunch and fare daily.....
i hustled untill i got a Job with NGO.

with my big heart, i used to shop for groceries for my siblings ........ i dont know why but i got the best heart ya forgiveness

well to date non apologised.....i do get triggers

but then they thought they were well off.... doors opened i came majuu kuhustle.

my dear i hustle day and night, i have plots, a hse, and apartment in nairobi, na huko kanyumba in my name.

this pple got jealous .......my own bro has not talked to me for over 5yrs....when i call him he is always in a harry

my siblings are in cahort, i tell my mom but seems they are best of friends.

now me i understand family drama coz i have been in one

but i have remained respectful.....when i feel anger i make sure not to call.

like why they ask me for money .....i dont know....tables do turn. just love love the one you think has nothing . doors do open and jealousy wount shut them doors,
shout amen , amen, another amen.

ms kiki...how blessings come, is not by busing no one... i know hako ka anger.

but try do things that make you happy... block everyone and live your life...blessings comes sometimes by being quiet sweetie.

dont come after me, cant handle ma stress ya familia aki.

instead listen to gaither gospell the song that says , if you love GOD.......

Why not tell Ng'endo the truth?Mama.Your daughter has qualified for PUBLIC STONING or MOB JUSTICE without mercy.There is no excuse of infecting others deliberately.SHE MUST BE PEMANENTELY REMOVED FROM THE PUBLIC.

I am tired of this old women leaving their kids behind and husbands in the name of going to America only to end up in entanglements. Who bewitched some parents. Kids are your kids and not relatives. I hope this lady returns where she belongs and stop running away from her responsibilities back in Kenya. Bure Kabisa.. tired of people running away from their responsibilities Ati America. America saa ngapi useless. Money is not the end of everything and if anything let her keep her little coins, so sorry this young girl ended up sick and once again it’s because of failed parenting from this selfish parents.,

Tired is this women running away from their responsibilities and crying pity party hapa. Rot where you are down there in America in entanglements and you fail your kids and family . Sending money doesn’t equatte good parenting..

I mean.. was it to late to bring her to the US. We all know it takes 5 yrs.. Anyways all in all there both wrong. You can't live a child for that long.. yeah I know.. she's 18yr but she's still a child. I am not sure how long she's been away so ill say no more on that.

As for the daughter, it's unGodly to sleep around infecting Men. You are evil and you will go to hell. God does not like Ugly honey!

Can someone just take me to America please. Anyone here please?
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At 36 you should not be depending on your mother for financial support. In fact it should be the other way round. Njoki should be helping the mother financially. A 36 yrs old woman demanding money from the mother like a 3 yrs old kid demanding a toy.

Sad story. The daughter is acting out because she needs attention. Why did mum leave her?

My parents left me with 10 years as they left for the US but I continued with my education. I am now 30 a secondary school teacher and married. This 36 year old woman still thinks she is a kid crying before mama. Your spreading HIV to innocent souls confirms that you are wayward and evil apart from bring irresponsible and reckless. Carry your own cross and stop sharing your filthy life.