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All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.â€
The above opening to Leo Tolstoy’s tome, Anna Karenina, is unarguably the best first-line in any work of literature. It’s like Tolstoy was talking about Kenyan marriages and relationships in the United States in the 21st century.
Happy marriages in the Diaspora are unions made in heaven. And unhappy marriages and relationships are hatched in hell. They are nightmares. And more men are always on the wrong end of the stick than women. Kenyan men are perhaps the most depressed immigrants in America.
Kenyan men in the Diaspora pretty much differ on everything, from politics to sports. But on the tragedy of what a Kenyan woman has become, Kenyan men, whether in Alaska or Nebraska, are in agreement; we have a huge problem. Kenyan women have come out as dangerous, malicious and vengeful and our men are giving up on them.
As things stand, more and more Kenyan women are ending up single in their 30s, or marrying West African men. But even other African men do found Kenyan women to be too aggressive in a bad way. Some white men who have picked on the wrong Kenyan woman have rued the day their lust got the better of their judgement. Kenyan women are gradually gaining an unspoken pariah status.
For starters, their ambition is seen as destructive and their love for money is repulsive and biblically disapproved. Many are taking forever to settle down. Those who are brought in by their husbands after they (their husbands) get citizenship, arrive here as innocent, obedient wives. A nursing diploma down the line, a job and a car later and they grow horns.
It’s worse if the husband happens to be doing a lowly job. The contempt of their previously provincial wives multiply tenfold, and soon, a family is rocked with infidelity, a separation, or divorce. In the American set-up, a divorce or a separation is bound to hurt the man more than the woman. Most men usually see all their savings go up in smoke due to their wives’ indiscretions. There have been suicides related to marital stress and depression. And it seems to be getting worse.
What is unsettling is the cold, uncaring fashion and usually unforgiving nature with which the women treat their husbands once things turn sour. Heartless does not even begin to explain their actions. The laws in America empower and protect women. And trust a Kenyan to take advantage. Most men have learnt rather bitterly that their wives are cheating on them and there is nothing they can do. Once they break up, the women seem to move on as if they have done nothing.
Whether it is our capitalistic set-up as a country or the fact that we sold our values to the devil in 1963, it is a sorry state of affairs. Indeed, most Kenyan women say that it is upon the Kenyan men to style up and upgrade their game. But traditionally, women scarcely ever appreciate the sacrifices men make in order to put food on the table. When a man brings his wife to America, his noble hope is that once she is able to get a job, they will invest together, with the man as the head of the family.
But once the woman touches her money, it becomes hers. And the man now has to feed and provide for the family. Kenyan women want equality the American way, but when it comes to bills, they fish out their worst Kenyan habits. Good Lord! What is it with a Kenyan woman and her money
Like seriously, can the First Lady address this issue If you want to see the face of the devil, ask a Kenyan woman about her finances. So, Kenyan men over here have become philosophers. If you ask them, they will tell you not to bother bringing your wife from Kenya if you are married, and if you are not, they’ll advise you not to marry a Kenyan woman who has lived in America for more than three years.
But seriously, something has to give. Let us all say a prayer for our women abroad. Pray that their hearts change to be able to forgive and love. Pray that they remain humble, in wealth and poverty. Pray that they love, obey and submit to their husbands. Is this really too much to ask
By Silas Nyanchwani | @nyanchwani | snyanchwani@gmail.com
Originally published on SDE.co.ke
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And it is all Kenyan Women in Diaspora's fault that there is a new virus ZIKA, that Donald Trump may get nominated to tbe the pall bearer of Rethugs, it is all Kenyan Diaspora fault that Oscar refuses to acknowldge fine black actors, it is all Diaspora Kenyan fault that there is famine in Ethiopia . It is all Kenyan Women in Diaspora that there was a monstrous storm last week at the East Coast ....yada , yada, yada! And here we go again with "Kenyan Diaspora women blah , blah, sounds like transylvania dracula, bla , blah. What a national disaster, First Lady in Kenya please, leave your important job in Ke and come address adult relationship issues and those who are incapable of understanding that Women and men issues are unique in each case but why not generalize, it is easier that way.
No wonder Maxiley dumped you :-)
Only a fool believes anything he reads on Mwakilishi, do I say :-). What a cheap shot- you just displayed your ignorance for all and sundry!
Ggot a response from you ,didn't I ? sema nami...
Sorry , you do not have the charm or charisma that Maxiley have for me to give you attention and that my dear friend you money, class, plotis etc cannot buy :-) Maybe that is what is lacking in all this shenanigans ...... try harder :-). And yeah you caught my attention albeit not a pleasant one. See, you do not have to be nasty to catch a good girl's attention, maybe that is all Disporan Woman want ****wink***
Boss alitoboa maneno ya 12yr r/ship na gachugwa..wachana na yeye. Mimi niko free! Sema nami ... wuz kidding maneno ya walami....nuthing tamu kama dada mkenya!
Who said I wanted Maxiely for keeps........., that gacungwa can stay with him, cooking , cleaning, feeding him, bowing for him when he becks etc,
Lol - after that intro - I would be crazy to kuongea na wewe, you strike me like the kind if I refuse your dossier, they come swinging with matusi..... "acha" - I'm good , thanks :-). I have a mzungu friend who is dying to meet a Kenyan jogoo, I will let her know to come to this site and find you :-))))
The truth hurts Jenny...n you wonder why ur single!
Don't make us laugh! Ati "love for money is repulsive and biblically disapproved"??????
Having access to a good job and funds empowers women such that they don't need to put up with the crap men dish out. Many women in Kenya remain in horrible relationships because they cannot support themselves but with a good job, it's easier to stand up to the man who may be lazing about, sleeping around, disrespecting you, or otherwise being a difficult partner. It is also possible that once the woman starts earning more that the male "bread winner" they feel emusculated and resort to mistreating their partner, having affairs to make themselves feel "manly" etc. Please don't blame women for your shortcomings.
GO LADIES!!!!
Llexx it must be very cold n lonely.. your dollars will not warm you...I can!
What's the reverse side of this story??....How about bringing a man here, get papers for him and he wants to earn minimum wage, work one job, no sch, just lead a selfish life....taking care of himself, keeping his account to himself, won't cook, can mow lawn, can't drive....Good for nothing!!! What happened to his Kenyan manly genes....Bread Winner! I should have known there are jealous men when the woman is doing better & supporting him but too Prideful to even try to be a partner!!! Out the door! NEXT!!! Makaratasi are not everything!
Word of Advice!! Be Ware of Such Cons!!!
I will need some backup pretty soon. Wanaume stand up! Hii maneno ya makofi na madharau kwisha! Madam hata amekuwa stranger na jikoni! Conjugual rights...HAHAHA...imekuwa priviledge....No wonder we're moving to wazungu!
Yeah move on to Wazungus, you will see how fast you will want to run back home ....ask your fellow Kenyan friends who attempted ha ha ha. I hear it is as cold out therr.......
Silas Nyanchwani give us statistic to support your story. Otherwise this is muchene (gossips) from a bitter and idle man.
Through all this thicket, only one piece of advice will help - African (Kenyan) men should totally boycott marriage. It is happening already but there are those few who still continue to subject themselves in oppressive relationships in a legal environment that heavily favors women. So many men have come to the realization that marriage ain't worth the trouble and this explains why there are so many young (and even old) women out there who cannot find hazis. As I pointed out earlier in a similar article, the feminists created all this melee so that women could have power in relationships but increasingly, there are no relationships to talk about in the first place. To hell with marriage
Actually Mlachake, most women these days either , moi included do not want this marriage thing, I just need a good man who will come and then go, to his diggs - give me my space to do my stuff and things I enjoy peacefully- ha ha ha , now that is emancipation of a Diaporan woman *** runs away and hides as I hear jabs coming at me left and right******. Marriage is so overrated!
In response to this piece, I started to write a reprise of a chapter from my last book WUODHA which incidentally are sections from my next book but it became quickly apparent that "it takes two to tango". The notion that "money brings out the devil in Kenyan women in the Diaspora" is a gross generalization and flies in the face of yet another adage "Money is the root of all evil". Going by Mr. Nyanchwani's perspective, the latter seemingly applies only to Kenyan women i.e. money is the root of all evil only when Kenyan women are involved! Not true!! Also not true is the idea that Kenyan men are (innocent) victims who tango alone! Dysfunctional relationship between a man and a woman do not just happen -- in a vacuum. It takes two to create the heaven or hell the writer alludes to! I am the last person to offer advise on relationships but I know this much -- from personal experience: If you are in an unhealthy relationship, walk away! Swallow your pride/ego and walk away. If there are children involved, make a personal decision to put them first regardless of what your mate does -- unless it's illegal! Cars, houses, household stuff, money, jobs etc....are just stuff and can be replaced. Obviously there are legalities involved but once the legalities have been addressed, the one thing no one can take away from you is your dignity and sense of propriety -- unless you allow them to. So with all due respect Bw. Silas, your piece has little to do with Kenyan women and more to do with personal choices ALL humans -- men and women make.
Correction @Washington Osiro, " love of money is the root of all evil" not "Money is the root of all evil" as you have stated. Soma bibilia vizuri bwana
I concur. My question is "what is the role of the head of the household" in this case the man and what is the role of the "submissive wife". In my opinion once the couple can address these roles for their households then peace will prevail, if both are on the same page. Assumptions on who does what is the root cause of marriages, I think in my opinion.
Its so true. however the problem is our culture back home never taught both parties about finances. The woman is confused and she does not have any training and believes men should be bread winners and the money she makes is hers. Its from our culture . In Kenyy Men do not allow women to buy anything. In fact as a Kenyan man I find it disturbing how some men drop 100,000ksh on the table when they want a woman.. Come on now. Lets not be so mean to the sweet disaspora girl.
Lets make this a discussion rather than pointing fingers.
I have just come from my shrine where I had knelt for 15 minutes in supplication,asking my god- Were khakaba Ukababiosi-for wisdom and guidance to finding an everlasting solution to this seemingly unending battle of the sexes between Kenyans in diaspora.
Khabaka ukabiosi is not please with these "wranglings". He is contemplation making all human beings hermophrodites .But I have pleaded with him to have mercy on all of us Kenyans in diaspora. To appease him,and have him at least calm enough to offer asolution.He wants 15 bulls,20 rosters,12 goats,3 camels,and one gorilla to be sacticed in his name,so that the love of money will not be the root of all evils,particularly to Kenyan women.And that they can amass as much as their abilities would allow them.
Now me being of humble means, I have set up an account with BB&T for this occation. Please be generous with your donation for we are facing amonumentous problem folks. This is serious stuff. More later on how to go by donating.
By the way, formerly guest 2,i still have asoft spot for you no matter what SHIDA says.Iam thinking that we should renew our romance again.I said aprayer or two on this matter,and Khakaba has said"proceed my children,I command you to show diasporans on how to conduct themselves in matters of male female relationships.Amen.
@ Maxiley - Ebu tell SHIDA, he just joined hapa juzi, juzi and he thinks he can figure our eromance . This has been a long term thing , we shall just renew it and actually make it real pretty soon , trailblazers!. Ahsante for the prayers, we shall lead the way :-))))))
I will break you polepole/mosmos. I have been proposed to 3 times in my life 2 kenyans (1 kyuk and 1 kisii) and 1 muzungu...#niceguyhere. #yourloss
Good for you, so why didnt you accept then?. Simply - you are not my kind , quit trying :-) Ati you will break me pole pole, and to that I say , TRY ME! Utalia tuu wewe mwenyewe- I have also been known to make men cry he he he
Simply put- The time was not right. I was young..u know -Jogoo days. Mr. Nyanchwani's article has jogged me back to reality. Time is not on our side. Even you will not remain a Gacugwa for eternity...gravity will take its toll. Take time to know me...to know me is to like me :-). I already like you- good sense of humor, polite and cheeky. I will henceforth picture a future with you..hope you reconsider my offer!
bro,,seems like you want to have your cake n eat t it too! wondering where ur at,. Much HESHIMA,,,Hope I have not steppeed d on your toes! Ndugu bro! Some of these dadas need to be put in their place BOSS!
Shida, Iam just following what my ancestors told me to do:). I have constructed a small shrine in my house where I to to consult them on weighty matters like my relationship with Formerly guest 2. Apparentyly my ancestors rank her pretty high.See shida my relationship with formerly is a little complex. There is adeep spiritual connection blessed by my ancestors whom I value very much.WIthout them I would not be breathing now. One day I will explain to you when Iam sure you are no the same plane with me and her. For now, just take it as an solved mystry.
Formerly has made it clear to me that their is no eating the cake,and having it at the same time.So for now, Iam fasting.
The writer has some points here and there but the solutions are what we should focus on. The best thing is to realize that demons are behind that kind of behavior or problems you highlight. Even men have their own share of demonic influence. All these things you hear or read about including the lady in Kansas attacked with a hammer is the work of demonic influence. When you leave Kenya not everyone is happy that you are in the USA and witchcraft attacks cannot be ruled out. If you are not saved and you don't pray to break witchcraft attacks etc, then you are toast. But even the strongest of relationships come under satanic attacks.
Have you ever heard of spiritual husbands and spiritual wives also called incubus and succubus? Sometimes ladies who take too long to get married or can't get married are likely being prevented from marrying physically by a demon/spiritual husband. A woman who behaves like a man in the house is more than likely married by a demon/spiritual husband that sleeps with her in the dreams and the demon will fight you as the husband through the wives violent or unruly behavior. Check this put https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Xe67ihxd5A and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BJEQuTtlC5k and check out bedroom eyes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lhV9UO7anHs. Some spiritual husbands/wives even appear physically then disappear https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4bi9h9Wp6DQ
What shall we say about spiritual wives and other demons causing trouble in men? I think this one will teach you enough https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-EddZDCfF4Q
Having said all that, I have prayerfully advised my boys the countries/descent of women to marry and the ones to avoid. Don't stereotype people though. Every country has its nice people and horrible people.
This is too deep. I will leave it to the spiritual world...That's why I have ashrine in my house. I can consult my ancestors who know how to solve this quandaries...
Some how,Iam curios . How come emphasis is put too much on "institutionalized marriage",cannt we just come-we -stay ,and live in hamony ?This is marriage to me.
Maxiley,
On a light note- the name sounds like maxillae - you know the site teeth or jaw of a grasshopper; that aside THESE VIDEOS WILL HELP YOU KNOW HOW YOUR ANCESTRAL SPIRITS ARE WHIPPING THE LIFE AND BRAINS OUT OF YOU. Sacrificing to ancestral spirits leads to bondage like you've never fathomed. CHECK OUT THE VIDEOS BELOW papa MAXILEY; DON'T JOKE! Sometimes the ancestral spirits take someones brains and put it in a calabash - the thinking becomes inverted and the career is scattered
1. Here are ancestral spirits for Maxiley: Don't JOKE MAXILEY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zAlTxBIHtx4
2. Career diverted by ancestral spirits: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWdQ9i14Rrs
3. This will JOLT YOUR MIND OUT. EVER HEARD OF BAMUDA TRIANGLE? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-YR75BI12k
And now conversation is getting creepy by the minute and no Maxiley I'm not related to this Guest :-)
Watched the clip. Let me explainor clarify something to you. I pray to Nyasaye Were Khaba Ukaabiosi,the God of luyha people. He is the creater of the universe and everthing in it. Before mzungu or mwarabu stepped on the soil of africa with their own brand of religion,that does to seem to solve any worldly problems,but exercebate them-somehow.
Just like jesus is the go between to the Father in Christianity,so are my ancestors.
This is areligion(spiritually speaking). Its is not that stuff I just watched on the video. The sacrifice I talked about is much the same as what the Christian God demanded from Abraham. In otherwords ,these two religions are parallel but equal.My reverenced opinion.
I also have another religion called SIENCE.If you are familiar with my prior comments,I espouse it alot.This is the practical,objective,and non spiritual religion of mine. The two keep me balanced.
Just curious,why are you gust 2? I ask this because,my sweetheart was FORMERLY GUEST 2. Any relation? Btw, "maxiley" is abastardised maxillae.And NO,I dont hope around from gachungwa to gachungwa.Did I spell this correct?
While I detest this unfortunate trend, I cannot resist the temptation to give it a second look. In family every member is supposed to grow in their own right and it better be tangible. There should be no joyriders in a marriage. When your partner makes strides in one way you better strive to grow also for power balance and your contribution to the union. Not a good outcome is expected when one partner stagnate in the ruts of yester years. Men poorly adapt and are less likely to adopt the new environment than women and children( have you seen how awkward some men are in new places?); though natural this is not an excuse for the brother to miss an opportunity to conquer the new lands. If your wife goes to work/school; your kids go to school, what they can achieve here "while walking" you have to "fly to get it". And so an imaginary sense of urgency pops up, your spouse and if kids "know" more of this world than you do; this breeds insecurity ( many deny this). Then time as a tyrant joins the "enemy" side to mock you and your achievements. Your buddies and male family back home are not a consolation either- with their progress and freedom that you seem to have sold short. Some start to develop the secret fear of kukaliwa. Me thinks this is the turning point when one should re-evaluate why they came/left in the first place. Failure to which things get to a point of no return where one starts haboring feelings of "home" and indulge in enjoyable recollection of past events. Further south, one moves out of the bedroom prefering to sleep in jamhuri and work in diaspora every day, while the partner works and lives in diaspora. This daily commute takes toll even on kids if any. Between the two none can "calm" the situation nor seek advise-the man has an injured ego and self worth and the sister "has been to the mountain". The bro keeps a small group of superficial acquintances 2 or 3 at work and a couple from atmost africa. The brother has to be secure, so none of his friends should challenge his litany of excuses and complaints about "bitter waters" in this place. Unknowningly my bro starts to talk, walk, work and pose like a loser. Since nature abhors a vacuum, my sister swing into position of responsibility. Not because she undermines the bro; but nature dictates that female protects her offsprings and future generations by every means. This sister is not aggressive, she cannot simply chicken out of the opportunities she sees in the lands of opportunity. Though unreligious, she subscribe to " he who looks back is not worth this kingdom". They sa behind every successful man there is a woman to push him; but in our case the brother having looked back, became like a "pillar of salt" that no one can push. I guess not every case is money or sister-instigated ; sometimes both are victims who in turn victimize each other. And those that are money cases, it is not necessarily that only the sister earning more spells doom; sometimes the brother brings home too little to demand traditional respect on. Instead of blame games that substitutes symptoms for the cause of our heartache, we need my brother's keeper, a my family's keeper and my marriage's keeper.
Oneday ,,,sometimes you loose me in your diatribe,,,no doubt..... ur smart but I get lost sometimes, Folks like mkenya mhalisi are simple,,,you on the other hand are complex
One day, to have no riders is the ideal marriage,but I disagree with you that marriage has no riders.Think of gold diggers,or guys who attract beauties by flounting their righfully,or illgotten wealth. Of course there are many non monetary assets that both parties bring to the union,and are equaly just as important. But the article is about-MONEY.
However, I agree with you that we one party grows,and the other stagnates,problems will occur.Marriage is a partnership of shared dreams, love,ambitions,happiness,and sorrow to name afew elements.The struggle is to keep these elements in a manageable"permutation".
Usually money is not the problem.I will keep it simple. Money is a medium of excgange/trade.Trade meaning you exchange it for what you want.The more you have it, the more it allows you to get what you want.Back to the article- When awoman earns more money than her spourse, the question now becomes what does she get in return for putting more money(harvest) in granery? We should not also forget that people marry for different reasons,and we should also mindful that as wonderful as marriage is made to be,its not for everybody.Some wouldbe better of not married to anyone.Need I bring example?
I will end by saying fighting over money is just simptom of what ails the marriage.Each couple is different.Some will fight over how to spend it,and others with fight over why it takes time away from family affairs.These fights vary in degrees,threats,and intensity to mention afew regular components of conflict.There is no cure-all prescription to all that marriage problems.However,when you identify the problem,nip it in the bud before it gets too late. When madam says she does not get enough attention or support,dont just brush it off as nuggings of an grateful woman.Otherwise ,like I always say, the Shamba boy will fill in the missing demands.Above all love and respect one another,and your days in the union shall lengthen.Amen.
@oneday, I agree with you totally. Marriage is good for those who are 'called' otherwise it sucks big time!
Corinthians 7:28 -English Standard Bible
"But if you do marry, you have not sinned, and if a betrothed woman marries, she has not sinned. Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that".
Marriage is overrated!!! ....go figure...
@MBWA, Which woman do you hate? Most likely your mother. You can not love Kenyan women if you do not love your mother.
Some user names speak volumes...why insult people just because ur anonymous? It's one thing to disagree n a totally juvenile approach to recklesly insult folks probably old enough to sire you just because you can!
A hood chick will never give you a chance to talk and if you give her hard time she will get you her home boys wakutandike.
haha @Woodlawn....these katas can drive you to tandika with their shinida (she-need-a-......) this she shinida that....tabia of kutumia others. Good thing you saw the light.
HAHAHAHA...umeona mengi...mimi nimesumbuana na akina Heather, Amanda, Stacey na Jody....Mkenya is where its at ! Hata mimi nimerudi HOME! Pizza na microwave meals kibao...SHIDA!
Jamaa I told u guys to invest hapa jamhuri mcome mkae raha.our constitutions allows
to have more than 1 wife.There is no way wote wawili watakuletea vichwa if u have to get
the 2rd one.Otherwise mkikaa hapo udiaspora mtaendelea kukaliwa chapati.Invest here
majamaa then move here wachia bibi watoto huko alee pekee yake kama she don't respect
u anymore.Otherwise u guys will continue talking until the cows comes home.Hapa hawaleti
hizo vichwa watata............kwa.
You sound like the coward that beat his pregnant wife senseless! Was it you?
Thanks @MG working on a relationship, inspiration & spirituality book series that I will share one of the good days ahead.
Can we talk about how many Kenyan dudes in the United States are alcoholics ? I know many that have broken limbs, lost jobs and can't drive because of numerous DUI's. I guess you'll blame kenyan women for that too. Kenyan men are dropping the ball. In my experience Kenyan men cant hustle like thier West African counterparts, content to do CNA and $14 delivery jobs alafu mko na courage to say 'money is evil'.
Iam getting tired of this blame game. Kenyan women blaming Kenyan men,and vice versa. I pretty sure thing blame game is not an exclusive of Kenyans,but I would like to say that, there is no law that says Kenyans should marry Kenyans,and Ugandans should marry Ugandans...ect.
Marrying being such apersonal choice, I would hope that one choses apartner because they have alot incommon to make it work,irespective of their nationality.Having said this, I would hope that those Kenyans whose relatioships are troubled,or in jeopady for one reason or another,and are thinking of bailing out, please go quietly.And if you so wish, start gain.But dont blame the other part before you introrespect. Sure the other party could be at fault,but where does this constant finger pointing lead us?
The failure of these relationships has more to do with failed expectations,and a reluctance to adapt.Its that simple.Wake up Kenyans in diaspora.
Mariage should not be about who makes what.The fact that a woman makes more than a man should not be the reason wto be rude to your spouse.Respect one another and everything should be good.If you are a doc and your husband is a CNAfin find a way to encourage him to be a better person don't insult.Who said a woman cannot be a provider.We are not equal and people should not be in competion in a marriage.
@ Maneno...and what do you do for a living? You sound like a gold digger. These West African "Hustlers" your praising are very familiar to us. Tumewajua kutoka Nairobi for decades...we know most of their hustles. Many are legit businessmen...I'll admit. Why knock down a Kenyan brother earning a paycheck straight up? Be very careful lest your WestAfrican suddenly has an emergency and has to return to Nigeria/Togo or wherever and leaves you with the 3 kids he gave u stuck in the US single ;-)! I have seen it happen!
Once upon a time,I used to live in US.I fell in love with an american.Married her for 7 years.Then I had a change of mind.I wanted to live in Kenya.Divorced and left for Kenya where I married again.What I wonder is why Kenyans in diaspora seem to be in many unhappy marriages.Why not divorce(like I did)??Instead of complaining all the time.
I am not big on marriages....but your 'prescription' is disaster right there, especially for the young. You surely lived in america... if it doesn't work, do not bother with repair, jettison!.... replace it with 'new'....new takes you longer before problems begin again (true)....american mentality.....but with relationships? Maybe if it just cannot be salvaged kabisa.
JUst me, actually if you have to go by what so called experts in this kind of things says, children are better of will parents divorced/separated than seeing parently fight all the time.Btw, people in Kenya divorce is creeping up there as well. It would just as high as in USA if women had freedom,and access to wealth like men
Napenda dada wakenya lakini wengi wenu muko na ushenzi mwingi sana.How do you expect someone that is paid for fees + apartment straight from Kenya + gets pocket money to be at the same level as the chap that the village had to do a mchang for! One shoe does not fit ALL. Respect real hustle. Some folks arrived at the airport with $100 and the relative hosting him doesn's show up at all!!!! CMON NOW!
Wengine wenu dada mumetoka matungulu county ama kieni or Naro Moru mukikaa just one year hapa US....WE!...SHIDA!..."mimi hukura 3 course pekee-not sheep stuff, I shop at Victoria Secrets onry. Hapa ni wapi unanipereka...mimi kama si 4 star kueda ju fogetrit!" Bure Kabisa!
Funny funny stuff!! I have been married to mzungu for 10 years and I cheat on her with Kenyan women. They treat me
very well but I'm wary to leave my mzungu. If you want kenyan women to treat you well, marry mzungu and then cheat
with them but dont get caught by the mzungu
Relationships are relatively complicated to say the least. There is more to it than just money. Financially independent ladies, irrespective of whether Kenyans or not, are great life partners as long as Men respect their opinions and treat them as equal partners in the relationship, as they should do to their partners anyway without regard to financial circumstances.
AMEN