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I'm Tired of Faking It: Sarah Kabu Reveals Why She is Divorcing Bonfire CEO Simon Kabu

I'm Tired of Faking It: Sarah Kabu Reveals Why She is Divorcing Bonfire CEO Simon Kabu

Businesswoman Sarah Kabu says she wants to divorce her husband of 12 years Simon Kabu after their marriage became rocky.

Sarah, who co-founded Bonfire Adventures with her husband, said she has not been comfortable in her marriage and is tired of faking things for it to appear like everything is well.

"We have been discussing that we need to separate since I have not been comfortable with this marriage and I am tired of faking so we were in discussion. I wanted a peaceful separation and co-parenting and so on," Sarah said in an interview with YouTuber Christina Lewis.

She added: "Even if my marriage is not working, I believe in marriages because I have seen them work. Sometimes you can lie until you lie to yourself. You could find that you're crying or going through a difficult time but you have to smile for the cameras and assume things are okay. You can lie, but you cannot lie forever.”

Sarah claims her husband’s two baby mamas are to blame for their impending divorce, saying the two have been interfering with her marriage, something she is tired of.

"70% of my marriage life with Simon has been blissful and we have had our good time. We have also had our bad times which we don't show people. I reached a point where I said enough is enough since some people looked up to me, they were inspired by our online story but I wished I had a humble life with love and peace of mind," she said.

She lamented that most of their earnings from Bonfire Adventures, one of the leading tours and travel companies in Kenya, benefitted people outside their family even though they have toiled together.

"You try to build your empire and then the money goes to support his blood. To me, they are not part of me. There is nothing we can do about it. I take it as a charity project. It has not been a big deal since I have been on the journey by even guiding him to some of the good schools he can take them. But for me, he should carry his own cross," Sarah added.

 

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Maxiley (not verified)     Tue, 04/12/2022 @ 12:22pm

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Well.well, is there anything new here?This marriage institution unfortunately has no graduation date.There are a few options available for you if you cannot manage it :
1. Croak
2. drop out( divorce)
3. Walk away( marriage in absentia)
4. Hang in( live in misery)
5. Elimination (make your spouse disappear) not recommended.
6. Have two marriages.
As much as we would love marriages to end in matrimonial bliss, the reality says otherwise. Even people of the Good Book have tried to stop separation by saying,:what God put together man shall not put asunder...something to that effect" And have harmed this home by ..."till death do us apart" Non seen to help,especially these days.
So what is the problem?In my humble opinion,nothing is wrong with the institution,but the participants.This institution is not for everybody.
In addition, it is an old model,that does not fit in today's society. We need a new model.I suggest we marry on contract.After 5 years,of blissful living,you renew for 5 more years.And if you caught hell for 5 years, you terminate the contract. After all marriage nowdays is a transactional relationship...What say you people?

Waciuri (not verified)     Tue, 04/12/2022 @ 11:39pm

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No one can foretell when they’ll fall out of love. You enter marriage for the sole purpose of life commitment. But if it last for two weeks or till death let us part, so be it. Its illogical to suggest a 5 year term then up for renewal, what qbout the kids? If any were sired in that period? Can you imagine the mental torture to a child who is left thinking whether his parents will break up aka not ‘renew’ their contract after 5 years? There are prenups after all, for those slow to trust and thinking everyone is hooking up for ulterior motives. And yes, divorce is an option that has existed time immemorial. Don’t overthink so much on this institution for those who are truly in love and derive meaning from it.

Maxiley (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 04:16pm

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What about the Kids you ask? Nothing changes.If you are happy you continue renewing.If you fail kids will be in the same situation as what happens now days. My suggestion of contract does not absolve the two parties of responsibility to kids.Remember divorced or not, you have to take care of your kids.
My 5 year contract is just asuggestion since body has an option that seems to work. In USA divorce rate is about 50%,and has been that way for a few years. Kenya may no be that far off.

Maxiley (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 05:01pm

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@ Waciuri, I also find you response illogical.
1. Kids will go through trauma if the relationship between mom,and pop is unhealth,and toxic.It does not matter whether there is a contract or not...In fact, so called experts advice against children to live under those conditions.The corollary is that happy children will not worry about'renewal'...or lack of it. Remember we are talking about when things have reached the end zone-mom and pop might kill each other if they continue living in the same" tabernacle".
2 What do prenups have anything to do with the topic at hand?In other words what has it go to do with success or failure of marriage?Its only relevant at the end... check out time.
One thing we can agree on is that whether marriages continue to exists in its current form or change, men and women will continues to have discourse,and intercourse in addition forging unions that would guarantee,and ensure the continuation of the human animal on the planet.

Tony (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 10:49pm

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You have been reading too many Wild West novels to even understand the trauma the children will experience in divorce situation @maxiley. Oh, you come from the same tribe with Ababu Namwamba where you can change women like dirty underwear and not care about the children involved.

Maxiley (not verified)     Thu, 04/14/2022 @ 02:59am

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BTW,@ Tony changing women" like dirty underwear..." is a skill acquired by afew. Remember women are not objects, they have amind to decided who to be with...,and its never too late to check out when it get's too unbearable.

mamboleo (not verified)     Thu, 04/14/2022 @ 03:09am

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@ Tony if you are so concerned about the trauma children would go through then dont have them, and if you have them dont get divorced. remember majority of divorces are filed by women. So you may want to stick it out ,but she may want out.

Maxiley (not verified)     Thu, 04/14/2022 @ 02:44am

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No Iam not contradicting myself. See contracts will eliminate running for divorce before time. All you have to do is wait for the contract to end and not renew it. In fact " divorce " will not exist. Renewing contract would be the applicable term.

Mbondiri (not verified)     Sun, 04/24/2022 @ 08:29pm

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How do you know you are not contradicting yourself @maxiley? This lose lady is looking for a guy like you. Both of you can make a really good couple of two tired of faking things people.

Kora kanini (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 04:57pm

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Comrade Maxiley,
Women won't agree to contracts, trying having a prenup.
I posed this question sometimes back, how does one expect to get 50% of what I own if she came with only her handbag and SUITCASE??

Maxiley (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 09:34pm

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@ Kora Kanini, I remember that.Imight add that the suitcase containing the items you shelled out cash for...
Pardon my language,but I see alot of"pussy whipped,and simping men", being run over by women. What happened to really men that make women go weak at their knees, just by a glance?
Women like men in control.Men who dominate. Men who are not scared.And having abig bank account helps them swam over you... They get bored very quickly when they entangle with a lesser man,and that explains why 75% of divorces are instigated by women.
Men need to retrace their foot prints up to where they deviated from being real men...otherwise they will always take the short end of the stick.

Maxiley (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 09:35pm

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@ Kora Kanini, I remember that.Imight add that the suitcase containing the items you shelled out cash for...
Pardon my language,but I see alot of"pussy whipped,and simping men", being run over by women. What happened to really men that make women go weak at their knees, just by a glance?
Women like men in control.Men who dominate. Men who are not scared.And having abig bank account helps them swam over you... They get bored very quickly when they entangle with a lesser man,and that explains why 75% of divorces are instigated by women.
Men need to retrace their foot prints up to where they deviated from being real men...otherwise they will always take the short end of the stick.

Sally (not verified)     Thu, 04/14/2022 @ 01:13pm

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What is your job? You should become a journalist so you can have a free access to the press. You sure spend a lot of time here. Do you have a wife or let me put it like this - do you have a significant other; man or woman to keep you busy elsewhere?

Maxiley (not verified)     Thu, 04/14/2022 @ 02:12pm

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I dont know if you are complaining or accusing me of some unethical act... Is there a limit as to how long someone can be on this forum.Besides that how long does it take to make a 3 minute comment? We are not talking of term papers here. And for you to see me this much, you must be here that much or longer.What say you?

Mūndūmūgo (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 10:17pm

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My take (2 cents) is that every fire eventually burns out leaving nothing but ash. You must keep the fire burning by constantly fueling it. If you are still with that chica, think about either not getting married and if you ain't no punk holla, "We want prenup! if you do get married. I had to go there.

Go crypto (not verified)     Thu, 04/14/2022 @ 10:13am

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@max you are the MVP when it comes to love marriage relationship matters. Consider joining real man Andrew Kibe on restoring manhood to their position. Men have been too feminized to the level of uselessness. Its either feminism or kamwiti. What a wicked time we live in.

GG (not verified)     Tue, 04/12/2022 @ 02:09pm

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A man or a woman should know and demand their worth & value! If you can’t get that then, that ain’t a relationship worth being there for!

We all have one life to live & it’s better be worth it!

Mkenya halisi (not verified)     Tue, 04/12/2022 @ 07:38pm

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Social media wife’s??If Ur a married lady treat your husband with respect dignity n trust me he will b mad stupid to leave you.Some women r controlling freaks especially with the ones who have monies n good careers??Men we don’t give any shit,after a while we will choose peace after kuvumilia kwingi.Anyway if Kabi have moved on walee watoto pamoja/they can still manage the company together as partners.

Sally (not verified)     Tue, 04/12/2022 @ 09:22pm

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It’s such a disappointment, Simon fight for your marriage and put your shit together, you can’t ditch our your earnings with Sarah to you baby mama’s what a shame. Man up.
Sarah you shall continue with your empire in Jesus name🙏🏼

Mbondiri (not verified)     Sun, 04/24/2022 @ 08:34pm

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@Sally - why are you fighting for a lady who has been faking it all her life. You sound like Simon and you are already shacking together but you are telling the faking lady to keep fighting. What is she fighting @sally? She says she is done faking it!

Mary (not verified)     Tue, 04/12/2022 @ 11:24pm

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Dont get married to a somebody who has kids if you expect them to behave like they never had kids. Otherwise utakasirika kila wakati if your hubby is man enough to take care of all his own.

Khaemba (not verified)     Sun, 04/24/2022 @ 08:39pm

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Oh, is that right? So when a man mans up to take care of the kids the new comer lady start acting crazy? She says she tired of faking it. Last time a woman told me she is tired of faking making love I just showed her the door and I got a new ride the same day. Too many fish in the sea for her to speak 😜 crazy…

Imara Daima (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 09:51am

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Marriages that are founded on a foreign cultural and religious foundation are bound to fail in the long run. Today’s marriages are founded on looks, wealth, and European’s cultural “worldview.” That’s why 50% of their marriages end up in divorce. If your marriage is based on good looks, guess what happens when one becomes old? If on the other hand one becomes broke as a result of loss of the sources of income?
As long as we continue following and aping irrational Europeans based fake marriage constructs, our divorces will continue to occur until we get the wisdom and find better and long lasting marriage foundations that are based on rational human based realistic constructs.

Go crypto (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 10:51am

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If safe just hang in there like tired breasts and think thru. As you mature you will know it was the right decision to stay. Social media isn't for marriage. Its for losers like Kim Kardashian who put money above all. Can't live online. Live mundukumundu

Mkenya (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 04:51pm

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Social media has killed and will continue to kill relationships if people think they should display their entire beings on there. Find happiness within yourself & the relationship & quit seeking for attention and approval from outsiders.They should have used the platform to promote business not flashing all their wealth there. Don't give people amunition, then get surprised that they used it.

Kora kanini (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 04:54pm

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How comes that every time divorces happen it's always a MAN'S fault?
Marriages are between 2 mature adults and every party plays a role when marriages fail.
Let's also think of what role the social media is playing. Marriages on social media are mostly fake, photo ops, show offs and stuff.

Maxiley (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 09:54pm

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@kora Kanini, in answering your question, the state of Florida where I reside instituted a no fault divorce.A spouse may file for a divorce without his or her spouse having committed any fault.Go figure.

Jasper (not verified)     Wed, 04/13/2022 @ 10:53pm

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I think marriage has just become pure headache. A man can live a fulfilling life single where you don’t have to worry about unpleasant decisions being made without your knowledge.

Mbondiri (not verified)     Sun, 04/24/2022 @ 08:27pm

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What are you faking lady? Just walk if you are that tired. You thought all his money was going to be your alone; right? The kids got to be fed too. Who cares?

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